My Husband Stalks Another Woman

Why does your husband look at other females?

Men look at other women besides their wives for reasons ranging from curiosity, validation, desire, or flat-out obsession. While it’s normal for either party to notice the opposite sex, it’s weird and disrespectful when it lingers. Ogling and going as far as monitoring another woman is not acceptable at all. Moreover, it might be illegal in your region, too.

How do you check that your husband is attracted to another woman

While you should follow your instincts, keep an eye out for any small behavioral changes. Is he getting less interested in you, withdrawing, or spending more time away? Some of these might be indicators of other marriage issues, but they may also point to more severe problems, such as stalking.

Below, we'll go into greater detail about these stalking signs.

1. His lifestyle has changed

If your husband is spending more time away from home or suddenly adopts new habits he’s hiding from you, it might be a sign that he's influenced by someone else. If he also suddenly prioritizes routines and activities that exclude you, then he might be investing his energy somewhere else.

Again, remember to consider other explanations for these changes. Maybe your husband is planning a surprise or needs some alone time. Always communicate and understand their reasons.

2. Your husband is on social media more often than before

If your husband is spending significantly more time on his phone or computer, especially late at night, it might be worth paying attention. Look for changes like him frequently liking or commenting on another woman's posts on Facebook or spending hours scrolling through her profile. These behaviors can indicate that his attention is focused on someone new.

However, keep in mind that everyone's social media habits vary. It's normal for people to spend more time on their phones these days, but if it's a drastic change and he's being secretive about it, it's worth paying attention to.

3. He is less romantic than before

Are sparks no longer flying? Does your relationship feel less exciting? It may just be that you guys are settling into your marriage and are now comfortable with each other. But if your partner is ignoring you or forgets important dates, it might be that they’re interested in someone else.

Talk to your partner about your concerns, tell them you feel like they aren’t trying anymore, and then check if they change.

4. He compares you with other women

Your husband comparing you with other women is a red flag. It shows that they do not appreciate your uniqueness or care that they hurt you. It may also indicate an attraction to someone else. This behavior undermines your self-esteem and creates feelings of inadequacy.

It's also important to understand the context of these comparisons. Is he simply making observations or trying to belittle you? Either way, a comparison is emotionally damaging and could be a sign of deeper issues like narcissism or a precursor to narcissist stalking.

5. He seems somewhat emotionally detached

Emotional withdrawal is a great indicator that their affections may be turned elsewhere. If your husband is emotionally distant over a prolonged period of time, then they might be emotionally focused on other females.

Although there can be lulls in your partnership, trust your instincts and discuss the lack of affection with your partner.

6. He talks a lot about someone else

Is there a particular person he can't stop talking about? It could be a new coworker, a friend, or even someone from his past. If he's constantly bringing up this person in conversations, it might be a sign something's going on.

Of course, it's normal to talk about friends and colleagues, but if it feels excessive or secretive, it's worth paying attention to. And if it’s his ex, then you should be much more concerned.

7. Your husband focuses on the friendship with somebody

If he's spending more time with a person, talking about them constantly, and prioritizing them over your relationship, it is a cause for concern.

While it's okay for people to have close friendships, a sudden overemphasis on one relationship—to the detriment of yours—might hint at something deeper going on.

However, it might be helpful to have an open conversation with your husband about your feelings first before any other steps.

8. You catch him on lies

People tell all kinds of lies. White lies, harmless ones, and lies that are merely an omission of the truth. However, if you continually catch your husband in lies, especially if they involve interactions with another woman, it can indicate something else.

You deserve honesty and respect.

9. He suddenly began to dress better

Is your husband dressing differently than he used to? Maybe he's started spending more time getting ready, buying new clothes, or paying more attention to how he looks.

Although it's admirable that he’s grooming himself better, a sudden change in appearance can raise questions about his motivations, particularly if it occurs at the same time as other signs of emotional distance. Is this a new interest, or could there be something else going on?

10. He is interested in you less than before

Although there will always be fluctuations in a relationship's intensity, an abrupt and noticeable decline in notice should raise some red flags. It's important to consider the context of this change: is he showing less interest because of work pressure, stress, or something else entirely?

Since this is a common sign that something is different in your relationship, don’t assume that their affections are elsewhere right away. Speak with them and voice your concerns.

11. He became more critical of you

Giving constructive criticism is one thing, but constantly calling attention to your flaws is quite another. Maybe he's criticizing your beauty, your cuisine, or your business choices. This relentless criticism could make you feel inadequate and emotionally spent.

It could also mean that they may have found someone else attractive.

12. Your husband removing his phone history

Your husband suddenly getting overprotective with their phone is another concerning sign. If they are leaping to snatch their phones away from you, it may hint at something else. As we said earlier, it could be that there are reasonable excuses for this.

However, if you do have permitted access to their phone, and they have erased all their message, email, and call logs, then that’s worth investigating. Especially if they have constant notifications and are always texting on their phone.

What to do when your husband stalks another woman

Discovering the man you love is stalking another woman is a serious problem. First, you have to protect yourself. Prioritize your safety and document evidence. You could try seeking professional help with your partner.  However, do not put yourself at risk. Stalking should also involve law enforcement in case the situation escalates.

Most importantly, focus on your well-being and tell your support system.

And just to be sure you aren’t being stalked yourself, install an anti-spy app to help you detect and remove spyware from your phone.

Here’s how to use Clario Anti Spy’s Spyware scan to detect spyware on your phone:

1. Download Clario Anti Spy from the App Store or Google Play.
2. Create an account.
3. Select Spyware Scan from the main menu.
4. Start the scan and follow the prompts to remove any detected spyware.

Parting words

Suspecting your husband may be stalking someone else is tough. While it's normal to experience relationship issues, excessive secrecy, emotional withdrawal, or obsessive behavior towards someone else is strange. If you believe your husband is stalking another woman, your safety is the first priority. Seek professional help, use Clario Anti Spy to check your devices for signs of monitoring, and do not rule out involving authorities if necessary. Remember, you are not alone.