My Ex Is Stalking My House

Why is your ex stalking your house?

Usually, an ex's reasons for stalking your house revolve around obsession and a need to keep you in their life, even if it’s against your will. They could also have unresolved feelings about the relationship or marriage and believe that stalking your house will eventually give them closure.

Whatever it is, it’s intimidating and dangerous. This behavior isn’t love and should be nipped in the bud.

Signs your ex is stalking your house

If you notice your ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife) popping up around your area or their car parked close to your house, odds are they are stalking your house. Other signs that your ex is stalking your house may include:

• Tampered or damaged property
• Unexpected visits from your ex
• Consistent drive-bys
• Weird packages or letters
• A general unsafe feeling
• Unusual noises
• Signs of forced entry
• Weird texts that indicate they’re tracking you
• Hidden surveillance equipment

How to deal with an ex who is stalking your house

If you notice your ex is stalking your house, contact your lawyer and local law enforcement agency immediately. You should also change your routine and document your suspicions, including online evidence. You’ll need to read how to stop online stalking to know what you can report and how.

Here are some more ways to deal with an ex stalking your house.

1. Change the locks on your doors

If your ex had access to your home, change your locks. Yes, even if you took back your key. They may have made copies of them and can use the keys to plant surveillance cameras in your house.

In fact, you can also add surveillance equipment to keep an eye on your house when you are away. This way, you can catch an ex spying on your house.

2. Keep an eye out for third parties who may be communicating with your ex

Keep an eye on people helping your ex stalk your house. Check if your ex knows or has acted on privileged information you shared with friends, family, neighbors, or even your landlord. It’s not uncommon to have a landlord spying on tenants, so do not let anyone enter your home unsupervised.

You should also monitor the people you often see around your house, including your delivery people and technicians.

Third-party communication also includes spyware on your phone. Your ex may have found a way to bug your phone and is using it to monitor your movements. You’ll need to use anti-spy software to detect and remove the installed spyware.

Here’s how to use Clario Anti Spy’s Spyware scan to detect spyware on your phone:

1. Download Clario Anti Spy from the App Store or Google Play.
2. Create an account.
3. Select Spyware Scan from the main menu.
4. Start the scan and follow the prompts to remove any detected spyware.

3. Ask your friends and family for support

Share your situation with your friends, family, or support network. They can advise you, escort you to places, and even give you a place to stay until your stalking ex is caught.

Letting your loved ones know your ex is stalking you provides a sense of security and shows you that you’re not alone. They can even help you monitor your home and gather important evidence against your ex-partner.

4. Contact local law enforcement

You have the right to live peacefully in your own home. If your ex infringes on that right, you should report the incident and provide everything you’ve documented about the situation to the police.

This includes phone logs, surveillance camera clips, pictures, messages, times, dates, etc. Nothing is irrelevant. Provide them with all the information they need to get a restraining order and eventually pursue a case against your ex.

5. Change your daily routine

If your ex is stalking your house, they may be familiar with your daily routine. This is dangerous as it leaves you vulnerable to their track at any time. Consider switching up your usual routine, changing your usual times, and avoiding visiting your regular places for now.

It is not an easy decision, but be unpredictable until the issue is resolved and you’re safe again.

6. Take self-defense courses

Enroll in local self-defense and situational awareness classes to protect yourself from physical encounters with your ex. You can find a dedicated self-defense school or ask if your local gym offers lessons.

In addition, invest in legal self-defense tools and keep them with you at all times. These may include a personal alarm, pepper spray, and tasers (if legal).

7. Record stalking incidents

Document. Document. Document. Install cameras to capture your ex’s stalking activities and add motion detection tech to log times they’ve trespassed on your property. Record phone calls, take pictures of things you find suspicious and messages they’ve sent too.

This paper trail will help you build a case against your ex and prove they’re harassing you and that it has escalated over time.

Take action now

You’ve taken the first step by recognizing that your ex may be stalking your house. Well done. Now it’s time to act. Secure your house, report to the police, and learn how to protect yourself from a physical attack. You can also research local organizations that help stalking victims, install anti-spy software like Clario Anti Spy, and let your family know.

In conclusion, do not take this lightly. Prioritize your safety.